WhatIsAGoodMother_Project Channel, Season 1, Episode 8 《什麼是好媽媽_研究》頻道, 第一季, 第 8 集
COMMENTARY*: Copers and the Systems of Parental Rejection 評論*: 父母拒絕的應對者與系統
Note. * What is a COMMENTARY? Our WIAGM Channel COMMENTARY is spontaneous conversation based. In each, Undergraduate Research Apprentice Genie Chu raises 3 to 4 questions regarding the contents of a review episode/topic (see the title) and Research Principal Investigator Dr. K. Ho answers each question spontaneously and systematically based on her knowledge and interpretation of the cited research. In addition, Dr. Ho will include real-life illustrations of the cited concepts (e.g., published media) to clarify their meanings, as well as to link the cited research (the new) to related concepts in psychology (the old) to strengthen viewers’ understanding.
注釋. * 什麼是評論？我們 WIAGM 頻道的評論是用自發對話的形式。在每個評論影片中，本科生研究學徒 Genie Chu 就文獻綜述主題影片的內容提出 3 至 4 個問題（見標題），研究首席研究員 Dr. K. Ho 根據自己對引用研究的知識和解釋自發並系統地回答每個問題。此外，Dr. Ho 還會加入現實生活插圖（例如已發表的媒體）來闡明概念的含義，並且將所引用的研究（新）與心理學中的相關概念（舊）聯繫起來，以加強觀眾的理解。
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In Season 1, Episode 8 (Chu & Ho, 2026, April 14) of the WIAGM Channel, the discussion focuses on the coping mechanisms related to parental rejection. Illustrations from Shu Qi’s case were used. Key topics include distinguishing between Affective Copers and Instrumental Copers, understanding the impact of Parental Rejection on behavior through Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy, the concept of Social Masking, and the significance of Empathy in Self-Differentiation.
在 WIAGM 頻道第一季第 8 集（Chu & Ho，2026 年，4 月 14 日）中，討論的重點是與父母拒絕相關的應對機制。使用了舒淇的案例。關鍵主題包括區分情緒因應者和工具性因應者、透過認知行為療法了解父母拒絕對行為的影響、社交面具的概念以及同理心在自我區分中的重要性。
- S1Ep8 COMMENTARY*: Copers-Systems of Parental Rejection 評論: 父母拒絕的應對者與系統 (Parenting Lit. Rev. & App. S1Ep8)
- April 14, 2026: COMMENTARY: Copers and the Systems of Parental Rejection | WhatIsAGoodMother_Project ARTICLE #3 (Part 2) IMPLICATIONS & APPLICATIONS https://youtu.be/wMkZa4xbmNg
- In S1Ep8, we commentate:
- (1) How do we differentiate between Affective Copers and Instrumental Copers of Parental Rejection?
- (2) How does a person undergoing restructuring in, say, Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy, gain insights and understand how Parental Rejection shapes their actions in life?
- (3) What is Social Mask that has been developed as a long-term defense mechanism in the individual because of parental rejection in childhood?
- (4) What is the role of Empathy in Self-Differentiation?
- 在本 S1Ep8 中，我們解說:
- (1) 我們如何區分父母拒絕的 *情感型應對者* 和 *工具型應對者*？
- (2) 接受 *認知行為治療* 的人如何獲得洞察力並理解父母的拒絕如何影響他們的生活上的行為？
- (3) 因童年時父母的拒絕，而使一個人長期發展出的一種防禦機制，被稱為社交面具，這是什麼？
- (4) 同理心 在 *自我區分* 中的角色是什麼？
- ***Co-Host, Author/Script-Writer/PowerPoint-Creator, Producer/Video-Editor, Executive Producer, Research Principal Investigator: Dr. Katty P. Ho, BA(Hons)Psy, MAPsy, MDiv, EdDEdPsy (https://hoideology.com/my-curriculum-…)
- ***Host, Undergraduate Research Apprentice: Genie Chu
- (recorded on January 17, 2026; published on April 14, 2026)
The authors (Ho & Chu) would like to thank Ms. SHU QI for her sharing of her story on The Do Show. 作者感謝舒淇女士在《The Do Show》節目中分享她的故事。
- Contents: COMMENTARY: Copers and the Systems of Parental Rejection 內容: 解說: 父母拒絕的應對者與系統
- 0:00 Highlights
- 0:50 Question 1: How do we differentiate between Affective Copers and Instrumental Copers of Parental Rejection? 問題1：我們如何區分父母拒絕的 情感型應對者 和 *工具型應對者*？
- 4:26 Question 2: How does a person undergoing restructuring in, say, cognitive behavioral therapy, gain insights and understand how parental rejection shapes their actions in life? 接受 認知行為治療 的人如何理解父母的拒絕如何影響他們的行為？
- 5:11 –Attribution 歸因
- 7:07 –SHU QI 1 (The Do Show, 2025, Nov 15): Parental Rejection 舒淇 1: 父母親的拒絕
- 12:26 –SHU QI: Affective Coper 舒淇：情感型應對者
- 12:30 –Narcissist Manager & External Locus of Control 自戀主管與外控型人格
- 15:54 Question 3: What is Social Mask that has been developed as a long-term defense mechanism in the individual because of parental rejection in childhood? 因童年父母拒絕，長期發展出防禦機制，社交面具是什麼？
- 16:14 –SHU QI 2: Social Masking 舒淇 2: 社交面具
- 16:43 –Parents blaming the kid for everything: leading to the child’s negative self-image, and thru the mechanism of social masking, developing narcissistic behaviors (personality disorder) 父母把所有事情都怪在孩子身上：導致孩子產生負面的自我形象，並透過社交面具，發展出自戀 (人格障礙)
- 19:21 –Hypersensitivity to Criticism and Distortion of Reality (narcissistic traits) 對批評的高度敏感與現實扭曲 (自戀特徵)
- 20:17 Question 4: What is the role of Empathy in Self-Differentiation? 同理心在 自我區分 中的角色是什麼？
- 20:18 –Inborn empathic concern 天生的同理關懷
- 22:06 –SHU QI 3: Affective Coper who has high levels of Self-Differentiation and Empathic Concern 舒淇 3: 高 自我區分 與 同理關懷 的情感型應對者
- 23:30 –Self-Empathy & Empathy for Others 自我同理與對他人的同理心
- 24:49–SHU QI 4: example of an Affective Coper who has high levels of Self-Determination & Internal Locus of Control 舒淇 4: 高 自我決定 與 內控型人格 的情感應對者
- 26:19 –Affective Copers (High in Self-Empathy and Empathy for Others) Vs. Narcissisms (Lack of Accurate Attribution; High Denial and Distortion of Reality, and Generalization or Overgeneralization of Feelings) 情感型應對者（高自我同理與對他人的同理）與自戀者（缺乏準確歸因；高否認與現實扭曲，情感的概括或過度概括）
- 28:23 –Affective Copers: High Self-Determination (active anger management) 情感應對者: 高自我決定（積極的憤怒管理）
- 29:36 –SHU QI 5: Unlike such affective copers as SHU QI, NARCISSISTS are characterized by their INABILITY to show affective empathy toward others and INABILITY to do Self-Reflection 舒淇 5: 與情感應對者不同，自戀者 無法 對他人表現情感共鳴，也 無法 進行自我反思
- 33:42 –SHU QI 6: Helping people understand Self-Empathy & Empathy for Others 舒淇 6: 幫助人們理解自我同理和對他人的同理
- 34:52 End credits; Introducing upcoming SEASON 2 介紹第2季
- References:
- Rohner, R. P. (2021). Introduction to interpersonal acceptance-rejection theory (IPARTheory) and evidence. Online Readings in Psychology and Culture, 6(1). https://doi.org/10.9707/2307-0919.1055
- Media References:
- The Do Show. (2025, Nov 15). Interview with Shu Qi 訪談｜舒淇 [Chinese]. YouTube. https://youtu.be/r5tiD4NXKpA?si=wL6Az8ZoJVd4X7ax
Copyright @ 2026 Dr. Katty Ho at Hoideology.com | To cite this material, use this: Chu, G., & Ho, K. P. (2026, April 14). COMMENTARY: Copers & the Systems of Parental Rejection | WhatIsAGoodMother_Project Article #3, Rohner (2021), Part 2, implications & applications (Parenting Literature Review & Applications, Season 1, Episode 8). [YouTube video]. From Hoideology.com. https://youtu.be/C1X5XC6m1ds
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